I wonder if you’ve ever gone through your busy, more stressful days with a small awareness that you’re not doing the things you know might help you feel better or more grounded?
I definitely do this sometimes.
I’ve noticed this especially when I have a lot on my plate…those moments or days when little gifts of self-care would be most helpful.
During those times, I’m more at risk for closing myself off and moving into the automatic mode that takes me away from really noticing what’s happening with me and what I need. There can be a sense that I’m too busy to take the time to stop and be good to myself.
I’m doing what I can to stay aware of when I go on automatic and making a point to drop back into myself to evaluate what I need to keep moving through my day with a little more wellness.
It takes various forms at different times, but the basic question I ask myself is this…
“What’s going on with me right now and what do I need in this moment?”
Here are some of the things I’ve realized from dropping back into myself:
- My mouth is so dry. Oh, I’m thirsty. I need water now.
- I’m exhausted, yet trying to force myself to stay awake. It’s time for me to turn off the device or TV and allow myself to sleep.
- I’m feeling sensitive and my shields are up. I need a hug from someone I love.
- I’m carrying a lot of tension. Finding some time to exercise or stretch today is a good idea.
- I’m feeling a little sleepy and I can’t rest yet. I think I’ll make a cup of coffee or tea.
- I’m feeling revved up and jittery. What’s going on with me? I need to dump out the rest of this coffee and drink some water.
- I’m feeling shaky and grumpy. I need to eat. I think I’ll have some almonds or peanut butter toast.
- My leg hurts. I need to not push the exercise today and rest when I get home.
- I’m feeling overwhelmed. I need time with a book to get my mind off of this or I need a trusted other to talk to.
- I’m feeling sad. I’m going to let myself feel this for a little while and then reach out to someone if I need to talk.
OK, you get the idea. Take some time to ask yourself this question as much as you need to during the day.
If you aren’t used to checking in with yourself in this way, it may take some experimenting to find what feels healthy and soothing to you. I hope you enjoy the process of discovery.
Be good to you…